Divine Laughter

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There is a god and she has a plan for each of us, a puzzle distributed at birth with one lifetime to solve it. We call it life, or reality, or love, or time, or the universe, but the name we give it doesn’t matter. Words are meaningless in the realm of gods.

It usually takes about 100 years to solve our puzzles and sometimes god lets us live that long. After we’ve logged seven or eight decades of work, she gets creative with us, laying traps to trip us up – dementia, exhaustion, hopelessness. She distracts us with the deaths of our most beloved companions and dreams. She muddies the water of our memories. She lays mines in the fields of those who are best at unraveling her riddles to be sure they are blown to pieces before they can share her secrets, and as a warning to the rest of us.

Wisdom comes with the realization that the joke is on us and the solution has always been the simplest one: to join the laughter.

The Meaning of Life

I recently re-read Kurt Vonnegut’s second novel, The Sirens of Titan, from 1959. A reviewer of the book in Esquire wrote about the author: “He dares not only to ask the ultimate question about the meaning of life, but to answer it.”

The book is dedicated:

For Alex Vonnegut, special agent, with love.

Kurt had this to say about his Uncle Alex:

“He said that when things were really going well we should be sure to NOTICE it. He was talking about simple occasions, not great victories: maybe drinking lemonade on a hot afternoon in the shade, or smelling the aroma of a nearby bakery; or fishing, and not caring if we catch anything or not, or hearing somebody all alone playing a piano really well in the house next door.

Uncle Alex urged me to say this out loud during such epiphanies: “If this isn’t nice, what is?”

In The Sirens of Titan a man and woman are stranded together on one of Saturn’s moons for 20 years. At the age of 73, they fall in love. The man is the one who explains the meaning of life, to some sort of extraterrestrial robot, when he says, “It took us that long to realize a purpose of human life, no matter who is controlling it, is to love whoever is around to be loved.”

Yoko Ono expressed a similar sentiment in her song Don’t Be Scared:

Don’t be scared
Don’t be scared
Don’t be scared to love
It’s better to love than never love at all
Don’t be scared

Don’t be shy
Don’t be shy
Don’t be shy to tell
You may miss the chance to tell
Don’t be shy

When your hearts are lit
Drop your survival kit
Then you’ll never have to run or split

Sun in the east
Moon in the west
Boats moving slow
There’s no land in sight at all
Away we go